How to Stop Overthinking in a Relationship
Overthinking in general does not sound so bad, right? You are thinking about a certain situation and trying to find a solution for it. But overthinking in a relationship can be very dangerous, especially in the long run. People who tend to overthink things are lead by one emotion, fear.
Overthinking makes your judgments cloudy and your stress elevates in no time. So the best thing you can do here is to find a balance and avoid all that negativity.
Overthinking is a very common thing with not only new couples but with couples that know each other very well. One thing is for sure and that is that nothing good comes from overthinking everything. If you think that you belong to this group of ‘overthinkers’ then it is a high time you take some action in order to have a lovely harmonius relationship with your partner.
Steps to take to stop overthinking
Have some free time – If you are a part of a couple that does not mean that you two have to do everything together. Thinking about another person too much can only lead to an unhealthy obsession which will result with jealousy and in some cases even depression. Losing yourself can only cause your relationship to deteriorate quicky, and I suppose you do not want that. Do something that makes you happy outside of your relationship and you will see the difference.
Stop yourself – When you get that overwhelming feeling and your mind is surrounded with negative feelings just sit down and breathe deeply. Remind yourself that your thoughts are unjustified and they will be gone soon. Ask yourself why you have these thoughts and what triggered them. If the answer is no, than you are just adding too much thought to something that is not even important.
Find a distraction – If you find yourself thinking too much about something and you are aware that it is not important then you should find something to do that will distract you from your thoughts. You can do whatever works for you. Listen to some music, dance or go to the movies, or you can do what I always do, clean. Some might not like my method though.
Think of what can go right – Overthinking always has a negative outcome. Instead of thinking what can go wrong, for a change think about what can go right. Visualize something good and keep that thought present and up front.
Talk to your partner – The best method to stop overthinking in a relationship, no doubt, is to talk with your partner. If you believe that your partner is the reason you feel this way then it is really helpful if you let them know. You can talk and eventually you might realize that your poisonous thoughts were simply there for no good reason. After all communication is the key to a healthy relationship.
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