Loneliness A Trap With A Way Out
We have all been stacked into the loneliness trap. As you grow old you realize that you do not have to live alone to feel lonely. Sometimes we are surrounded with lots of people but we still cannot avoid this extreme emotional pain. We have all been there for sure. There has probably been a phase when you had a partner, close friends and colleagues but you still felt pain because of the quality of those relationships.
According to many psychologist loneliness is a subjective feeling, and it is determined by the quality of your relationships and not on quantity.
While many people are aware that they are lonely because, let`s say, they moved to a new city, they have changed their work place or someone close to them died, others do not know that they are slowly but surely getting into the ‘loneliness trap’. They have feelings that they cannot determine and they simply do not want to do anything to get out of the trap. They are slowly starting to accept the situation because they are not very well aware of what is going on.
There are a couple of things that lonely people do:
Being pessimistic. They believe that people do not like them around and for that reason they do not even try to interact with their friends.
Avoiding contact. By avoiding socializing they are actually the culprit without even realizing.
People know that you are lonely. Some people can easily tell when someone is lonely so they can avoid just because they do not want to be a part of another person`s drama.
Loneliness is contagious. When someone feels lonely he unintentionally tries to lure their friends into the ‘loneliness trap’. After all, misery likes company.
Losing social skills. If you spend lots of time alone then you forget some basic skills like ‘small talk’.
It is not all that dark as it seems. There are some things that you can do to avoid loneliness. Take initiative. Try to rekindle old friendships, avoid being alone, take a new hobby, volunteer and the list goes on and on. And the most important thing is being optimistic. This might seem easier said than done but at least you can do is try because this is the first step to your well being. You are the one who has to escape the loneliness trap.
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